It’s every guy’s desire to last longer during sex…
…to give his girl or woman orgasms and a one-of-a-kind sexual experience she can only have with him.
But unfortunately, most guys ejaculate or climax sooner than they would like to.
Now, why does this happen?
Why do most guys or men ejaculate quickly during sex?
Surely, there’s the usual culprit – premature ejaculation…
…but there are other reasons why we guys ejaculate quickly during sex.
And they are…
- involuntary contraction of the ejaculatory muscle
- demanding sex positions and sexual postures
- intense stimulation to the penis
- over-excitement
- performance anxiety – the fear of ejaculating quickly again
Let’s go into detail.
Involuntary contraction of the ejaculatory muscle
This is an overlooked reason most guys or men ejaculate quickly during sex.
The ejaculatory muscle is the muscle that you feel involuntary contracting when you’re ejaculating and having an orgasm.
This is the muscle that also allows us guys to move our erect penis up and down. Get it!
It is the same muscle that controls the flow of urine. Notice how when you’re peeing, the muscle you push to force urination out and contract when you are trying to stop urination… or relax to allow the urine to flow naturally, this is the ejaculatory muscle at work.
This muscle plays an important role when it comes to sex – it is through the continuous relaxation of the ejaculatory muscle that we guys can last as long as we like during sex. Or at least, last a lot longer during sex.
Now, most guys or men find themselves easily losing control during sex because they fail to keep their ejaculatory muscle from involuntary contracting.
It is through the continuous relaxation of the ejaculatory muscle that one can last as long as he likes during sex.
Read: ‘The 2 Main Causes of Premature Ejaculation’
Read Also: ‘How to Avoid Premature Ejaculation In 5 Simple Proven Steps’
Moving forward.
Another overlooked reason why early ejaculation happens or why most guys or men ejaculate quickly during sex is their use of…
…demanding sex positions and sexual postures
Sex positions and sexual postures also play an important role in lasting longer during sex.
You see, when it comes to sex and lasting longer, one needs to feel relaxed and not tense up his body and muscle groups.
And as I discussed a moment ago, it is through the continuous relaxation of the ejaculatory muscles that we guys can last as long as we like during sex. Or at least, last a lot longer during sex.
But some sex positions make it difficult for most guys or men to feel relaxed and most importantly keep their ejaculatory muscles relaxed for a longer period during sex.
Considered ‘too demanding’ because these sex positions put too much pressure on the body, especially the thighs and legs… which leads to the involuntary contractions of the ejaculatory muscles. And which consequently pushes one to ejaculate quickly or sooner than he would like to.
Looking at the missionary sex position, for instance, you will notice that we guys depend on our arms and legs for support during sex… and this puts too much pressure on our body and muscles, and make it difficult for us to relax our ejaculatory muscle for a longer period during sex.
Some sex positions make it difficult for us guys to relax our ejaculatory muscles throughout sex… which consequently causes us to ejaculate quickly during sex.
Keep Reading: How to Control Premature Ejaculation With 7 Proven Tips and Techniques
The next overlooked reason why early ejaculation happens or why most guys or men ejaculate quickly during sex is…
…the intense stimulation to the penis
Particularly when the vagina ‘hugs’ the penis tightly during sex.
This is also what causes quick ejaculation during intercourse for most men.
When there’s stimulation to the penis beyond what a man can take, it intensifies his excitement and causes him to ejaculate and climax sooner than he would want to.
You see, a tight vagina stimulates the most sensitive part of the penis (the frenulum) really well… and this can cause most men to blow their load sooner than they would want to.
When there is too much friction to the frenulum (the small fold of skin located on the underside of the penis head), it pushes a man closer to ejaculation and orgasm.
On top of that, if the man adopts a “too demanding sexual posture” like the standard missionary, it can make it difficult for him to control his sexual arousal and excitement.
Quick ejaculation is also a result of stimulation to the penis beyond what a man can take.
Read More: 10 Simple and Proven Techniques to Last Longer in bed
Read Also: ‘How to Last Longer in Bed Naturally’
Moving on to the next reason most guys or men ejaculate quickly during sex…
Over-excitement
For any man to last longer in bed, it starts with him controlling his sexual arousal.
A failure for a man to control his arousal and excitement during intercourse will cause him to ejaculate sooner than he would like to.
Because as he starts to peak in his excitement, comes the beginning of the ‘point of no return’.
And once a guy gets overly excited, it’s game over almost as soon as the sex begins. [Read: ‘How to Control Your Sexual Arousal to Hold Back Ejaculation and Prolong Sex’ and ‘The Start-Stop Technique: A Simple Technique for Lasting Longer During Sex’]
Read Also: ‘The Squeeze Technique: Squeezing Your Way to Long-Lasting Sex’
Once a man gets overly excited, it’s game over for him.
Read: ‘The Average Sex Time for Guys: How Long the Average Man or Guy Last During Sex’
Now, the last of the reason for ejaculating too fast…
Performance anxiety – the fear of ejaculating quickly again
As hard as it may be to believe, sexual anxiety also triggers early ejaculation.
This is especially true when a guy is used to ejaculating quickly during sex and worries that it’s going to happen again…
…plus, he is with a new woman. And he’s afraid to ejaculate quickly and embarrass himself.
Here, when a guy is preoccupied with his performance issue – especially afraid to ejaculate prematurely – his body (the endocrine gland) churns out a hormone (that quicken ejaculation) into the bloodstream. Which inevitably leads to quick ejaculation.
Plus, his concern with ejaculating quickly causes him to loses sight of how to control his arousal… and this consequently causes him to climax quickly.
The greater the anxiety level, the closer a guy gets to ejaculation. [Read: ‘Premature Ejaculation, The Embarrassment, Performance Anxiety, and On Having Satisfactory and Fulfilling Sex’]
Keep Reading: Beautrais Maneuver: The Simple Trick That Prolongs Intercourse
Read More: How to Cure Premature Ejaculation In 2 Simple and Hugely Effective Steps
A man can experience a lack of control over his arousal and climax fast when anxious.
So, there you have it…
…the 5 unfortunate reasons most guys or men ejaculate quickly during sex.
I hope this article has given you an insight into what causes early ejaculation or what causes a man to ejaculate quickly during sex.
Read: What to Do When You Ejaculate Prematurely During Sex or Sooner Than You Would Like to
Don’t forget to also read: ‘How to Give a Girl or a Woman a Great Time in Bed Even When You Suffer from Premature Ejaculation’
You may also want to read about the ‘The Refractory Period’
